We all know the rhyme:
Sticks and stones may break my bones,
but words will never hurt me.
What a crock. Words can be some of the most hurtful weapons out there. I was listening to conversations all week, and what I heard shocked me. The amount of times people put themselves or others down is insane! What was even more insane was that I had to actually pay attention to notice how much it actually happens. It happens in casual conversation, in the comment boards of news sites, on Facebook, even in private.
It all reminded me of a book I read, called "The Healing Power of Water". The author performs experiments where he attaches positive statements such as "gratitude" or "love" to water, and examines the frozen crystals. The results are beautiful, perfect water crystals. When he attaches negative phrases, such as "hate" or "kill", the crystals come out deformed and discoloured.
Now whether you believe in the science behind these experiments or not is beside the point. The key message here is that words have the power to transform. They can turn you into something brilliant and beautiful, or into something ugly and dark. And it has nothing to do with physical appearance. How many times do you look in the mirror and think about all the things that are wrong with you? On the other hand, how many times do you look at someone else and think about all the things that are wrong with them? These thoughts can affect us in ways we can't even imagine.
I have been guilty of saying or thinking some downright nasty thoughts about people. Do you know what always happens? I feel bad and nasty about myself! Those thoughts manifest in me. Now when I think or say nice things to someone else, I feel good. The math of it is quite simple. This is all a part of inner beauty. What you feel, think and say is a reflection of your insides, your soul, your heart. This will eventually work it's way to the outside, by your actions and deeds.
No one, not even physically beautiful people can hide inner ugliness forever. You can admire physical beauty all you want but it becomes meaningless if the minute the person opens their mouth and nothing but hatefulness comes out. Think about a time when you have been around someone really negative. Who cares what they look like! It brings you down and you just want to get away. Now think about someone who makes you laugh so hard your stomach hurts. Do you care that they have a huge zit in the middle of their forehead, or that they are carrying an extra ten pounds? No, you are caught in their light, the beauty of their inner spirit. Do you see how little physical appearance has to do with day to day connections?
Choose the path of inner beauty. It can transform your world.